It seems that my life has taken me on many different courses, so it’s hard to keep up with all the decisions to make, bad or good, and all the consequences or triumphs that happen because of those decisions. Just like a new job, promotion, or wedding can be exciting and challenging, the loss of something that has been so defining can be one of the most stressful and emotional experiences ever.
You may not play or even like sports, but everyone knows what its like to lose.
I started Women Who Score after my divorce because I considered “my team” to be my marriage and when it failed, it was like I was benched on the sideline. My divorce to me was not only a loss but it was like I was questioning every season I ever even played. This loss made me question my identity, my self -esteem and confidence, my daily routine, my sense of security and my happily ever after… til death do us part. I think for me, knowing what it is like to be on a team (even if you aren’t winning all the time) makes leaving that team very difficult.
You see women all the time that forgive or stay in a miserable relationship hoping to get back to better times or looking forward to a future filled with another Superbowl. For me, I just think I had enough. I was drafted, I had amazing seasons and even won a few Superbowl’s…but when “my team” no longer put the team first, I needed to re examine my playbook.
Think I started off in denial, then increasingly angry, I’m sure alil bitter but I’m gonna say bittersweet 
, depressed, excited, nervous, anxious…all rolled up in my feelings! Women Who Score gave me a platform to express myself and hopefully any of you that want to express yourselves.
Women who score is about being honest with yourself.
It’s about looking back on your loss and learning from the experience. Acknowledging all of your feelings and challenging yourself to learn from your mistakes. Women Who Score is about calling your own plays.
It is a humorous way to connect my loss in my relationship with football. Football has rules that need to be followed and when they are not followed each team is penalized accordingly. I needed this structure in my relationship.
Women Who Score is me making my own rules. I was keeping my eye on the clock, blowing my whistle, making 1st downs, defending the line, and using my stiff arm as needed.
You’re were really hard to find. I’m going to let you guess who I am. Shouldn’t be too hard unless I wasn’t as popular as I thought I was. I left a pretty obvious hint here. I definitely would like to hear back from you if you remember me and don’t mind contacting me.
Michele, good for you! I’d love to catch up some night after school! I support you 100%. Seems like a lifetime ago when you shared your classroom with me as I helped my students be more successful with your lessons. I’ve been working as a Special needs Teacher ever since.